I shared this list first in December, 2016. A lot of people have told me that it helped them, so I want to share it again.
I am grateful to be past that insane freshly divorced phase of life. I can’t say that I’m sorry I went through it, but for those of you who are still in the early years of separation or divorce, I feel for you!
Know this, and take this list as my opinions only:
You will be insane for approximately 5 years.
People who stay married have parenting problems too, it’s not just you.
Even if you think you are ready to date, and you will date anyways, you are not ready to date.
Having less money is not that big of a deal. You and your kids will become more resourceful and you will all be better off for it.
The earlier that you stop engaging in long emails with your ex, the better. Apply this to subsequent relationships as well.
Sometimes you need to stop talking it over, and you just need a lawyer to deal with it.
We all know that one, or both of you, had an affair. That’s just what happens. Don’t waste time carrying it around like a big shameful secret. Nobody cares.
Your friendships will totally change and you won’t share the same friends even though you don’t want to believe me.
Your new friendships will change several times over until you find your true people.
You will spend time in the self-help section in Barnes & Noble and read about everything from becoming a more evolved human, to getting men/or women to love you by acting like more of a jerk.
You will learn about yourself and find yourself. You will surprise yourself by the new things that you can do, and the new places that you go.
You will be fine.